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Christmas Letter 2011

Merry Christmas from the Sherwood Family!

It has been two years since you last heard from us because Linda was too lazy to write a Christmas letter last year (or too busy, depends on whether you believe Steve or Linda). This year, she thought she would avoid the last-minute rush by writing the letter in October, but Linda is also very good at procrastination. Thus, there are just 14 days left until Christmas, and Linda has a ton of papers to grade (finals week begins tomorrow). This, of course, is perfect motivation for Linda to avoid grading papers to write the Christmas letter. Plus, she promised Steve she would have it done two days ago, but she has to be in the proper holiday mood to get the letter done and after a weekend of holiday cheer, she thinks she has it.

 

Before we look back at the last year (or two), we wanted to take the time to ask you to “save the date.” Autumn is a high school senior this year, and we are planning to celebrate her graduation May 26, 2012, which is the Saturday of Memorial Day Weekend. You are welcome to bring your camper and/or tent and stay in our yard. It should be a fun party. And yes, we will be sending out official invitations next spring.

 

2011 started well. Everyone was busy and productive, and Justin was following in his sisters’ footsteps and competing in Battle of the Books. It is an awesome reading competition that involves lots of practices and getting dressed early on Saturdays. It was one such Saturday when Linda was driving Justin into Houghton Lake for a practice competition when the pair was run over by a semi-truck. Luckily, the semi-truck missed any vital body parts although it totaled Linda’s minivan, which did NOT break Linda’s heart at all. Linda was adamant she would not replace her minivan with another minivan. She is now driving a car that can hold six people, but it is a car that doesn’t scream “mom” and still gets 28 to 30 mpg. The big news of 2011? Steve and Linda celebrated birthdays that started with 4 and ended in 0: 40. For the record, Steve is older (March to August), and Linda doesn’t look a day over 39.

 

Steve is still working as a field technician fixing the gigantic engines that push natural gas through the pipe lines. His work truck caught fire one day on his way to work, so he now has a new truck to drive. For most of the year, he worked near Gaylord and would spend at least one week away from home every month. In September, however, he was transferred and now works primarily in the Beaver Creek area, which is about 25 miles from our house. He didn’t have to travel out of state as much in 2011, and we were all happy to have him home more often. We like the guy, so we are happiest when he is around. This fall, Steve loved being able to take all four kids hunting although Amanda was the one who went hunting with him the most. Steve waited until the end of rifle season to take down a good sized doe.

 

Linda is still teaching at Ferris State University, which she loves. She teaches both in a traditional classroom and in an online classroom. Online teaching is great because she can wear her PJs while working, which is good since she is running out of work clothing that fits her. She lost about 56 pounds this year. After struggling with her weight for several years, Linda had gastric sleeve surgery in August and is very happy with the results. Although the surgery has definitely helped her lose weight, Linda has also become quite active in working out and going to Zumba to maximize her losses and get her to goal weight. Thanks to weight lifting, she is also happy to report that she has actual biceps for the first time ever.

Autumn, 17, was inducted into the National Honor Society and receives tons of mail from colleges all over the United States. She finally received the letter she has been waiting for – an acceptance letter to Ferris State University where she will attend next fall. She plans to study digital design. She received an early Christmas gift (her varsity jacket) and is looking forward to playing softball on the school’s new fields this coming spring. She is now working at Kmart, but she left her job at McDonald’s on good terms and may return there next summer. They were sad to see her go. In good news, it has been over a year since she received a speeding ticket, so she no longer has a graduated driver’s license. She now has the real thing, and we hope the cost of the tickets will continue to prevent her from future speeding. The girl learns lessons best when the lesson costs her money.

 

Amanda, 16, is the newest licensed driver in our house. The best thing about this is that Amanda is willing to do the most boring of errands as long as it involves her getting to drive. It seems Amanda learned from her older sister’s mistakes since it has been more than a month since obtaining her license, and she has not received a speeding ticket nor exhibited the behavior that would result in one. During the summer, Amanda worked for a local ice cream shop. She did a good job of spending her income wisely. She is the chief caretaker of our animals including the latest additions: four rabbits and a turtle. The turtle is all Amanda’s, but the rabbits were supposed to belong to all four children; Amanda, however, is the only child to take care of the rabbits without any reminders or nagging. It isn’t surprising to anyone that has ever seen her around animals that Amanda plans to study veterinary medicine in her future. She is looking forward to spring and participating in softball, which is her favorite nonanimal-related thing to do. Despite her love for animals, Amanda loves hunting. She is the first of our kids to bag a buck; she brought down a spike-horn during the youth hunt. She is a junior this year.

 

Maxine, 14, is a freshman in high school and adjusting to life in the high school very well. She has learned some tough lessons about friends this year, but she is figuring it all out. She worked at Merritt Speedway selling popcorn all summer, which helped her math skills immensely. Right now, freshman basketball is keeping her busy. She spends most nights at practice or games. It is paying off – she made a three-pointer the other night, and her family was there to see it. It’s a small team of just 8 freshmen, so she gets plenty of playing time. She has enjoyed having two older sisters to drive her around to the various school-related events. This was especially helpful during the marching band season when Maxine learned to march and play at the same time. She played alto sax in the marching band, but she is trying her hand at tenor sax for concert band season. Despite being a “cool” freshman, the girl still smiles incredibly easily and has the best giggles and hugs around. Plus, her dad protects her fiercely mostly from her older sisters.

 

Justin, 12, is just a couple of weeks away from becoming a teenager (January 7). He is in seventh grade and manages to get almost all As and could probably get all As, but he has a tendency to put off work and fails to turn in all of his assignments in at least one class every semester (I wonder where he gets that procrastination tendency from…). The kid is a computer whiz and pretty good at most video games as well (although his dad still beats him on the racing games, but it is getting closer). He played Jaguar football this year, and he surprised himself with how well he did. He loves tackling. He also played a number of positions in Little League baseball and is working on developing a killer throw like his older sister Amanda. He plays trumpet in band and never seems to be without a girl or two fawning over him. I have no doubt that he will become the tallest of the Sherwood kids in the coming year. The kid grew a LOT this year. He was pretty proud of himself (we were too) when he bagged his doe during the youth hunt.

 

The Sherwood family wishes you the merriest of Christmases and a very happy new year.

Love, Steve, Linda, Autumn, Amanda, Maxine and JustinDecember 11, 2011

Pinterest: For Steve

I am in love with my husband, and I think of him frequently. I see things that I want to share with him or remind me of him, and it makes me smile or laugh. Most of these things I share with him, but some things are just silly.

To help keep track of those things, I made this page. I made the page knowing that my husband probably would never see it unless I made a point to share it with him. I have, but I’ve also added to it. This board at Pinterest.com is For Steve. Always.

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Go Ahead and Ring My Bell

(Photo of bell to be posted soon!) I started dating my husband when we were both in high school. It was in those early months when he had came to my parents’ home to pick me up that my dad decided to play a bit of reverse psychology.

My dad was big into reverse psychology. For a long time, I didn’t get what he was trying to do, but it has been over 20 years, and I am figuring him out. I think. I can’t confirm my ideas since my dad died in 2003.

Anyway, throughout my life, I had waited on my dad. I’d fetch him drinks and food and even come downstairs and cross the living room to change the channel on his TV. Before remote controls, I was a remote control. The TV was only a few steps away from my dad, but I was called into service. In part, he was checking on my since I tended to disappear into my bedroom, but it was also because he was overweight and getting me to do it was easier.

Still, my dad wanted me to grow into an independent woman who didn’t wait on a man.

As I said, my future husband (although we weren’t yet that serious) was picking me up for a date. My dad was sitting in his usual place in the living room and chatting with my date while I was getting ready. I tended to be late in those days (imagine that!). On a table next to my dad, there was a bell. It’s the kind of bell you would ring if you arrived at an unmanned counter. It brought someone out to help you.

My dad rang the bell.

“This is Linda’s bell,” my dad told my date and suggesting my date would possess it soon. “You just ring it, and she’ll come running to wait on you.”

My dad timed this line as I was walking into the room, and my reaction was typical: like h&@# I will although that was back when I was still living with my parents, so I didn’t actually swear but the sentiment? It was there.

For years, I refused to wait on my husband. I would not fix his plate, which was one of the major things I did for my dad. I did get over it, and the day I brought my husband a plate of food, he knew how big a deal it was and appreciated it rather than expected it.

There is a HUGE difference between appreciation and expectation.

Tomorrow marks my 17th wedding anniversary. Earlier this week, at my mom’s house, I happened to see the little bell. Mom let me have it. For my anniversary, I am giving this bell to my husband. I don’t expect him to ring it and expect me to come running, but I am giving it to him because he would never expect me to, and I love him enough and TRUST him enough to do it if he ever did want to ring my bell.

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Thirty-Nine Lessons I May Have Learned

Today, August 19, 2010, marks my 39th birthday. It is one of those birthdays that aren’t quite real in that when you mention it is your 39th birthday (or your 29th), people tend to wink and nod and think you are really turning 40 (or 30). But I’m not. I’m 39 today.

What does it mean to turn 39? After 39 years on the planet, what have I learned about myself, about parenting, about writing, about love, about marriage, about life? I’m not sure, but I want to make an effort to figure it out at least 39 times. At this point, I’m not sure if I can come up with 39 things or if I’ll be able to come up with 139, but the plan is 39 things. I’m going to go ahead and get started now:

  1. You are never too old to learn something new. I went back to get a master’s degree in 2006, and I plan to eventually get a PhD. And even without the pursuit of formal degrees, I love to learn.
  2. Although I absolutely love to engage in a DIY project, I am not a carpenter, and it shows. It might be that the project is unfinished for months (years), but the imperfections just add to the character of our home, right? I still love doing DIY projects.
  3. I have never regretted taking the time to learn HTML code or anything about how computers work.
  4. Parents need to know as much as if not more than their children know about technology.
  5. Marrying the right man is an important first step in having a good marriage, but the work doesn’t stop there.
  6. Laugh. Be goofy. Don’t skip doing something because you are afraid of looking silly or stupid.
  7. Don’t skip doing something because you are afraid of failing (OK, I admit it, I am STILL learning this lesson.).
  8. No matter how hard you work to protect your children and your pets, both can still get hurt anyway.
  9. Even if you aren’t a sentimental parent, you will suddenly find tears in your eyes when you realize your youngest daughter finally grew so much this summer that she is almost the same height as your oldest daughter. And no, you aren’t sure why you didn’t realize that when she brought you the garbage bag full of pants that were now too short.
  10. Children are rough on a home and furniture. Eventually, your son’s bedroom will need major drywall repair, but if you let him use his “cover it with posters” strategy long enough, you can possibly wait until he is old enough to fix it himself.
  11. Buy lots of posters.
  12. Amazing husbands are rare. Be thankful you have a rare one and make sure he knows you feel that way.
  13. You can do little things for your husband without being in danger of becoming your mother.
  14. Yes, teenagers do sometimes talk to their parents in “a tone” that makes the parents want to strangle the offending teens, but your teen probably can’t hear that she is using “a tone” anymore than you could when you were a teen.
  15. Counting works. Start counting when your children are young and ALWAYS follow through. You’ll be glad you did when your child is a teen and still responds to hearing the number “four” and stops before you have to say “five.”
  16. Yes, your dad only let you talk on the phone for 10 minutes under his supervision. You hated it. Times have changed. Your child can talk outside of your hearing for longer than 10 minutes. Times haven’t changed enough yet though to make it OK for your child to be making phone calls in the middle of the night.
  17. Cell phones are optional for children even teens. Parents do not have to provide them. When parents do, it is perfectly OK to go through the child’s texts and set restrictions about when and how the phone is used.
  18. You are not limited by where you live. If you want to do something, find a way.
  19. Work hard.
  20. Stop working and spend time with your family.
  21. You CAN go at least 24 hours without technology especially if you spend those hours with your husband and/or family.
  22. Dance.
  23. Yelling doesn’t solve anything. It can even make things worse. You feel bad and so does the person you are yelling at. Knowing all of this doesn’t make you stop yelling. But you can keep working on yelling less.
  24. Words are useful, and there are no “bad” words, but there are times and places and audiences where words should be carefully chosen and some words should be avoided.
  25. Writing can help you discover what you are thinking.
  26. Punctuation and spelling are not the most important things you need to know in order to be a good writer. Most people do not realize this.
  27. At one time in your life, one person may have said something about you or your skills or your lack of skills. Years have passed, and you still remember. Don’t let it limit or box you. Even if it was true then, it doesn’t make it true now. And the person who made the comment probably forgot about it two second later, so why continue to give the statement power?
  28. Everyone doesn’t have to like you. You can be OK with that.
  29. You must always have good reading material available. You never know when a snow storm might hit.
  30. Spending money on yourself can be a good thing. Being a mom doesn’t mean you have to be a frump.
  31. Flirt with your husband.
  32. Sometimes the cheapest deal isn’t really a deal. Sometimes you’d be better off paying a bit more for good quality.
  33. Take photos and videos, but remember to take time to put down the camera or video player and live in the moment too.
  34. It is easier to find things and keep them in good shape in a clean house, but you will never keep things as clean as your mother-in-law. That’s OK.
  35. Embarrass your children once in a while. They’ll be sure to return the favor whether you do or not.
  36. Everyone should learn how to read a map.
  37. Things don’t go away just because you try to ignore them.
  38. Your children are wonderful and frustrating and smart. They are not you or your husband. You like them anyway and love them always.
  39. About 20 years ago, all you wanted was to wake up each day next to the love of your life. Your living the dream, and it is even better than you thought it would be even when he does steal your pillow. I love you, Steve.

Pampering Me

How much money have you spent on YOU lately?

Like most moms, I don’t usually spend a lot on ME. I buy for everyone else.

Until this year, when some combination of getting older and needing a change resulted in me getting my hair done every 8 weeks. This is unheard of for me. Normally, I get a hair cut when I get so fed up with my hair that I just want it gone. By the way, I don’t recommend this strategy. It can result in some bad decisions that can take a while to grow out. It also meant that my hair stylist was whoever had an opening right NOW, which is also leaving way too much up to fate.

But last fall, I discovered a great stylist, and I’ve stuck with her. I even schedule appointments in advance. I’ve also referred her to others, and my daughters even like her.

And earlier this year, I did a first — I had my hair professionally colored. I went with highlights in various shades. Eight weeks later, she added blonde highlights. My hair was a riot of color, and I liked it. But now it is the end of July, and I am planning and preparing for my fall classes, and I thought I was too blond for fall. So I went dark again, but I still have a lot of highlights mixed in, which I love.

But it takes about two hours to cut and color my hair, which seems very decadent. It isn’t something I even would have considered doing in the past. I have too many demands on my time and all of those demands come before me.

This year, however, I realized I need to do for me as well. When my hair looks good, I have more energy and feel better about myself, which means I am more likely to do things with my family. When my hair looks blah, I feel blah. Now, I might feel blah, but my hair still looks great. ;-)

The next step? I want to plan a really great vacation for my husband and me. I’m not sure when or even where, but I’m starting to think of the options. Because we’re worth it.

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