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Birthday Bash Burnout

autumnsbdayI thought I had learned my lesson and learned it well. Last year I invited six five-year-old girls to my home to celebrate my oldest daughter’s fifth birthday party.

We finger painted. We blew bubbles. We colored. We danced. We belted out the latest Disney tunes. That took all of fifteen minutes. I still had another 45 minutes to fill and I was out of ideas.

This year I had planned to improve. My daughter’s list of who to invite grew by leaps and bounds. I remained firm. I sent invitations out early. I booked the local fast food restaurant’s play area. I had learned my lesson.

I mentioned the upcoming party to a friend of mine. In return I got sympathetic advice to be sure to pack some aspirin. No, that was last year. She smiled knowingly.

“Mom can I have everyone spend the night? Please,” my daughter begged. I gave in. We were up until midnight. The next day, we removed the birthday banner and the crepe paper. My daughter was thrilled. I was tired. The party had been a success.

Less than two weeks later and another birthday bash is upon me. My youngest daughter is about to turn three. I plan a simple family party. I’ll make a cake and put up the banner.

Then we see THE cake. On the cover of Woman’s Day magazine is a cake complete with a blue Jello pool and Teddy Graham swimmers and sun bathers.

“Please?” my soon to be three year old begs. I relent. Have you ever tried to use icing to create tiny bathing suits on teeny tiny teddy bear shaped crackers at 2 a.m.? I keep telling myself it is worth it. She only turns three once. I’m creating memories.

I crawl into bed around 3 a.m. I’m up again at seven with my husband as he prepares for work. He asks what the house looks like. House? Oh no! I get up and string some crepe paper and put up the banner just in time.

The birthday girl wakes up and wanders out of her room. She stares up at the banner hanging on the living room wall.

“Can I go into the kitchen Mommy?” she asks.

“Sure,” I answer perplexed. I follow her as she walks into the kitchen and looks up at the bare ceiling.

“Where’s the rest?” she asks. It seems I didn’t decorate the kitchen with enough crepe paper for her demanding tastes. I quickly show her the pool cake. She is enchanted.

I think from now on I am sticking to my original plan. I will adhere to the KISS method. (Keep it Simple, Stupid). I will buy the cake, keep the party to family members and one friend maximum. I will….

“Mom,” interrupts my four year old. “Can I have a pool cake for my birthday?” Before I can stop myself, I have agreed to a pool cake, and a party for ten of her closest friends. I finally remembered how to say no when she asked for the horse. She gives me a kiss.

KISS, my plan…. So much for that plan. Her party will be in October, which reminds me…. I need to make their Halloween costumes. Can you pass the aspirin?

Copyright © 2000 Linda Sherwood

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Parenting Milestones

My baby girl — the oldest one — is turning 14 tomorrow. We celebrated her birthday over the weekend with some of her closest friends. The girl received a digital camera for her birthday, and it takes videos. I didn’t realize that, but it didn’t take her very long to put the new camera to good use. They filmed some skits and posted them on YouTube.com. They had fun.

Here she is with her birthday cake:

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And for my actual baby girl (the youngest one), she went to softball practice tonight (Sunday) and had barely begun warming up when she decided to catch a ball her sister (the middle one) threw. Unfortunately, the little one caught the ball with her mouth. She ended up with a bloody nose and not one but TWO fat lips.

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And the oldest one had a special awards dinner last Tuesday. The cool thing — I had received this exact same award back when I was in eighth grade. She missed the last track meet of the season to attend the dinner. Here she is with one of her friends who also received the award.
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Realizing that her sister was going to have a bunch of her friends over, the middle child begged and pleaded for permission to leave. She sought refuge at a friend’s house for most of the weekend. Here is a picture of her and said friend taken earlier this year:

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And last but not least, a shot of Justin hamming it up for the camera:

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Camping Photos

I have a lot of great photos from our camping trip last weekend, and I wanted to share a few.

First , there is me with my birthday/graduation cake. I thought the cake was huge, but there was also a huge group of people there, so it didn’t last long.

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And then there were two adorable cute boys who had won some kind of race. They insisted on having their picture taken with the checkered flags, which are on our rug outside our camper. The dirty one on the left with the strange facial expression belongs to me. The other is my nephew.

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While camping, and when not racing, my children hung out in a fort. The picture doesn’t do it justice. They really had a good thing going. The oar came home with us when we left.

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Happy Birthday Maxine!

maxinewebToday my baby girl turns seven! Maxine Elizabeth Sherwood was born at 9:30 p.m. on June 5, 1997 at Grayling Mercy Hospital in Grayling, Michigan. Before giving birth, we didn’t know whether or not she was a girl or a boy. We named her Maxine Elizabeth after her great grandmothers, my Grandma Maxine, and Steve’s Grandma Elizabeth.

I remember in the hospital one of the nurses saying something about the disposition of women named Maxine and how they always seem to live up to the name given them. But if you think of Maxine as the cranky woman from the Hallmark cards, that’s not my Maxine.

My Maxine is always smiling. She has the biggest blue eyes you’ve ever seen with this dark eyelashes. Her eyes always draw comments from ladies at the grocery store. She is bubbly and can never stand still. She is always on the lookout for more fun and loves to interpret the world around her. One of her teachers claims Maxine is the one child out of all of them that she just wants to grab and take home. Maxine is sweet and devilish and has the most delightful laugh.

Yes, that’s right. Sweet and devilish. The girl can cook up trouble in no time flat. She has earned her nicknames “Tank” and “Monster.” But if she runs you over she’ll do so with a delightful giggle. She’s stubborn and set in her ways at a very young age. Don’t tell her she can’t do something. She’ll prove you wrong.

So many people have commented on Maxine’s eyes that if someone tells her she is beautiful, she’ll stick her finger in her eye and proclaim, “It’s because I have beautiful eyes.” Although she rarely sticks her finger in her eye anymore. She’s growing up after all. Seven years old and about 43 inches tall and 43 pounds. She likes to crawl up into laps and curl her arm around you. Giggle in your ear a bit. Definitely one to talk and talk and talk…. That’s my Maxine.

Maybe she is a bit like the Hallmark Maxine. She says it like it is and is prepared to get it done, whatever it is. If she doesn’t want to, don’t think you’ll make her. She learned to walk at 9 months and before her third birthday she was riding a two-wheeler without training wheels. She’s a tank and a monster and a sweetheart, and usually all three all at once.

(Birth Story Warning)

By the time I was pregnant with Maxine, I was an old hand at this giving birth thing. But my body still hadn’t figured out how to go into labor on its own. So once more I was scheduled for an induction.

I arrived at the hospital on June 5, a Thursday, at 8 a.m. I wasn’t having contractions and I wasn’t dilated or anything. When I arrived they used a gel to soften my cervix, and then left me alone. I spent most of the day alone in my room, reading a book, waiting for things to happen.

Steve came to the hospital when he got off work around 6 p.m. My sister Dee was there too. After two doses of gel cream, I was having some very minor contractions, finally. After Steve arrived, they gave me a third dose and this one seemed to get things in motion. I was finally dilating, but I was just a 3.

That’s when my doctor decided to move things along a little bit faster. At a three, he was able to break my water and things really speeded up from there. It was 7 p.m. when he broke my water and I was dilated to a three. As soon as my water broke, I began having strong regular contractions.

My brother and his wife arrived around 7:30 p.m. By then I was dilated to a 4-5 or so. They moved me to the delivery-recovery room. The contractions started getting harder, and Steve held my hand as he watched the Red Wings on TV.

I began to have those all-over body shakes again. This is the one thing about labor that I absolutely detest, but I did it every time. But by then I knew what they meant. It was time for Maxine to arrive.

My sister Dee went to get a nurse only to find out my doctor was at Big Boy eating dinner. By now it was 9 p.m. I knew it was time although I don’t think the nurse believed me and I know my doctor wasn’t expecting it. You’d think the poor man would have learned by now that once I got started it didn’t take long.

Steve started pressing on my back to counteract the contractions, which was the only relief I had from the back labor. My brother and his wife left the room and waited outside in the hallway. I sent my sister Dee for the nurse because I began to feel a burning sensation. It was Maxine’s head crowning. The doctor wasn’t there.

The nurse came in and told me she was trying to track down my doctor. She called an emergency room doctor in case my doctor didn’t make it back in time. And then she told me my favorite nurse phrase, “don’t push.”

Yeah, like that works. My body was so out of my control at that point. It was operating on autopilot and I didn’t have any choice in the matter. But I tried to keep from pushing. They told me not to and I didn’t. But it was NOT easy.

I wrote in Maxine’s baby book that I was told not to push and I didn’t, but Maxine, however, had other ideas. She was pushing.

I had tears in my eyes from trying not to push. My doctor walked in at the last possible moment. The ER doctor, who was just one floor down, never would have made it on time. He walked in and said I could push, but I didn’t hear it, so I asked, “I can push?” The doctor and nurse both said yes, and I pushed once.

Maxine arrived with just that one push. She was so tiny and covered with vernix, the cheesy stuff.

Steve called his parents to let them know. The nurse said Maxine was the first girl born at the hospital in about two weeks. My parents were in Texas visiting my sister, Kari, when Maxine was born.

Soon after Maxine was born, Dee and Keith and Irene came into the room. Actually, Dee was in the room, standing in the doorway throughout the birth. She quickly started snapping pictures.

One of the nurses was 3 months pregnant with her first baby. And when she took Maxine over to the little area to be measured, etc…. She picked Maxine up by her feet with just one hand and dangled her over her crib to measure Maxine’s length. Dee snapped a picture of it.

There we all are on the other side of the room, Steve, and my doctor, and me, watching this nurse dangle my newborn daughter by her ankles with just one hand! I think the nurse felt our eyes boring into the back of her head because she quickly set Maxine down in the crib. We let out our collective breaths.

My doctor later apologized for that. I believe he chewed the nurse out later in private as well. Maxine’s apgar score was 8 at birth and 10 just five minutes later.

She was beautiful. She weighed 7 pounds 8 1/2 ounces. She was 18 3/4 inches long. Her hair was so soft and it was long with brown and blonde hair both. Both of her little toes hid behind her fourth toe.

Her sisters and Grandpa Sherwood came to meet her the next day. Autumn and Amanda were staying with Grandma and Grandpa Sherwood when we were at the hospital and Grandpa brought them to meet Maxine.

Twenty-four hours later we were ready to take our baby home, but I don’t think the nurses expected that. She was born late enough we could have stayed another day, but I wanted to go home. We arrived home with Maxine at 11 p.m. on June 6.

Fast forward seven years. The kids are all camped out on the floor in our living room. At about 1:30 a.m. Amanda came running into our bedroom because Stupid Dog was biting her for no reason. Stupid Dog went in his cage and Maxine and Autumn wandered into our room to sleep. As Maxine stretched out on the floor she asked, “Am I seven yet? Is it my birthday?”

So I’m looking forward to a couple of hours from now when I tell her she won’t turn 7 until after her bedtime. ;)

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9 years, 364 days ago

(WARNING: This is a birth story.)

I was pregnant. Very, very pregnant. For the fourth time, although the first three had been blighted ovums and hadn’t resulted in a baby. This time there was a baby and she was late. Very late and I was miserable. Steve was home now after being gone most of the pregnancy. He’d enlisted in the National Guard and spent most of my pregnancy stationed in South Carolina. He arrived home on May 8, the day after Autumn’s original due date.

I was supposed to be induced on May 16, but they decided I wasn’t ready after keeping me in the hospital all day. I wasn’t dilated at all and they decided to give me some cream to soften my cervix. When I left that day, I was cranky. I did not expect to be going home without a baby that day.

But on the 19th, Steve and I were back and at the hospital by 7 a.m. I was dilated to two. But this time they let me fill out the birth certificate information. We already knew Autumn was a girl. Nothing happened and hours passed. At 10 a.m., they gave me an I.V. and hooked me up to pitocin. My mom arrived and Steve headed home to get some sleep. He was convinced it was going to be a long night. My sister Dee stopped by. My mom left to get lunch, leaving my by myself.

A nurse came in and wanted me to roll over on my side. As I rolled over, my water broke! The nurse declared I was here to stay now. I was being admitted and I really wouldn’t go home until I had a baby to carry out the door with me.

They put straps across my belly, and found out I was dilated to a three. Autumn kept moving and they had a hard time getting her heartbeat. They wanted to attach a monitor to her head. The nurse tried twice, but Autumn was really active and trying to turn posterior. They transferred me to a birthing room.

My mom and Steve returned. Although Steve left again, this time with Dee, to eat lunch in the hospital cafeteria. My sister (a nurse) was working that day and was on her break. All the straps went back around my belly and they wouldn’t let me get up to go to the bathroom.

My doctor came in and discovered that Autumn got her way and she was posterior. I was dilated to a 4. At the doctor’s suggestion, I got on my hands and knees to get Autumn to turn back around. He attached the monitor to Autumn’s head so they were able to keep track of her heartbeat. And I began having back labor.

I’d now been dilated to a four for four hours and Autumn was still posterior. I was having all-body shakes and back labor. Dee and Steve took turns pressing against my back when I had a contraction. My mom wiped my face with a cool cloth. The doctor mentioned “c-section.” But Autumn turned around finally and when the c-section doctor checked, I’d progressed. I was now at a 6!

The c-section doc went out and at 6 p.m., my doctor checked again and I was at a 10! Those last four centimeters happened in less than a half hour. Steve held my left hand. My mom was down by my left knee and my sister, Dee, was by my right foot. Dee’s shift had ended at 6 p.m. Time to push. I pushed once, grunting. Autumn’s head came out, but the umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck. My mom gasped when she saw that. But the cord was loose and Autumn arrived without a problem. Steve cut the cord.

Then the nurses took Autumn to a corner of the room and cleaned her up and did tests. I waited, holding Steve’s hand. He stayed by me, but my mom and sister went to get their first glimpse of Autumn.

I remember the doctor holding up Autumn’s placenta, examining it and giving Steve and I a mini biology lesson. Her placenta was starting to deteriorate, and he showed us where there was now scar tissue. He estimated she was well over two weeks late.

They finally brought Autumn back and I was able to hold her. She didn’t have any of the white cheesy stuff newborns have. She was that overdue. Her skin was so soft. My nephew said she felt like a teddy bear.

My mom, sister Dee, and Steve were all in the birthing room with me. As were about 10 various nurses and doctors. Autumn was born at 7:10 p.m. She was 8 pounds, 2 oz and 20 inches long. Despite the scare during delivery, her apgar score was 8 at one minute and 9 at five minutes. She had a ton of hair and her fingernails and toenails were so long! Her skin was dry and peeling. Her fingernails had grown over the tip of her finger.

Autumn had deep dimples by her knees and elbows. I knicked her finger when I tried to trim her fingernails, making her bleed. And boy did she holler too!

Soon everyone went home to rest and I spent time alone getting to know Autumn. I remember watching the news, holding Autumn and hearing Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis died of cancer at 11 p.m. The nurses came and took her back to the nursery, but I kept getting up and getting her because I didn’t want to be apart from her. But everytime I fell asleep, they’d take her back to the nursery. Then I’d wake up and go retrieve her.

I didn’t remember all of this. I wrote each of my kid’s birth stories in their baby books just days after they took place. I referred to Autumn’s baby book when writing this for the details. ;)

Autumn Lee Sherwood, May 19 1994, double digits.

Happy Birthday to Autumn. Now let’s hope I survive the birthday party on Friday.

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