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HallowedOut

My children need to learn how to DO trick or treating. For the first time ever, at the ages of 15, 13 and 11, my children went door to door shouting, “Trick or Treat” and collecting pillowcases of candy.

No, I am not exaggerating. My children have never gone door to door for candy before. This is primarily because Houghton Lake has this wonderful thing called “Bobcat field,” which is sponsored by the local Lions club. There are games and prizes and at the end of the night, every child walks out with a bag full of candy. In some ways, Halloween at Bobcat field are a lot like Cedar Point’s Halloweekend on a Saturday. The lines, they are long.

The other reason my children have never gone door to door is that we live in the sticks. Even if we tried to do the traditional door-to-door visits, the walks in between houses would be so long that we might be able to visit two places in two hours. Possibly.

Normally, the kids do go to a few houses before we head to Bobcat Field. This involves me driving to the houses. The kids pile out of the car, go up to the door, get their embarrassing riches of candy and then get back into the car. There may not be many houses near where we live, but those that give out candy make it more than worthwhile to stop. We’re talking full sized candy bars, cans of pop, toys and bags full of candy rather than just a piece or two. One year, one house even gave out money. It was rolled coins, but still. (And it was on purpose as part of other things the same house gave out.)

So last Sunday, for the first time ever, my kids experienced the door to door thing. They were not amused. They learned that it is not normal to get an embarrassing amount of candy from a single house. They also learned that all that walking is tiring and thirsty work. Plus, it is cold outside.

Within a half hour, my 15-year-old was asking if she could ride in the car. The answer was no. By the end of the night, she declared Grayling lame because she didn’t get a single solitary Almond Joy candy bar. What is up with that? She had more Butterfinger than she cared to count, although truth be told, for that child a single Butterfinger is too much. She does not like her Butterfinger, but her dad was happy and quick to say, “Don’t lay a finger on my Butterfinger.”

Don’t tell the youngest girl child, but for the two children, we started trick or treating the right way: with shakes at Dawson’s/Stevens. Yum. The youngest girl child missed out because she was with a cousin at the time.

When I was a child, I stopped trick or treating when my mom declared enough. My children, however, wanted to stop just 1.5 hours into it. They did not run between houses. They frequently walked by houses with lights on and required constant pointing from the adults to figure out where to go next.

And next year? They want to go to Bobcat Field. Less work. More friends. Still candy.

My oldest child was not with us on this excursion. She is a teenager with a life of her own, and she was required to march with the band at Bobcat Field. She was a gangster. In order to be a gangster, she had to borrow a tie because this home does not house a single tie. I like that about this place.

The biggest surprise about this year’s Halloween? How BLACK the tub was after the son washed up. He had hair-sprayed his hair black before going out. By the end of the night, his hair was not so black, but his clothes, his hands, his face and anything he touched was coated in the stuff.

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Attempting A Last Minute Fling

Attempt is the key word here. It hasn’t really worked out. I tried, but other people keep interrupting and making demands on my time, and it is hard to get away and steal a moment or two.

I had high hopes for today, but they were shot down by a 13-year-old who thinks she wants to play volleyball. It is strange the things that will interfere.

Officially, my children do not go back to school until Wednesday, Sept. 8. Unofficially, two of the four children are currently on school grounds engaged in school activities. My other two children are probably still sleeping or at least barefoot and planning to soon head into the lake for a nice relaxing swim. I was planning at being lakeside as well, but volleyball interfered and instead I am using the woefully limited power of the wifi at my local public library.

The fling, you see, was an attempt to get one last vacation in before school starts. We pulled our camper into the campground yesterday, and we flirted with the idea of setting up an official camp. There were two problems: one, we weren’t quite next to my in-laws, and there would be a closer spot opening up today; and two, the people camping next to us had claimed about 6 feet of our campsite. It wasn’t all our temporary neighors’ fault. A few trees on our campsite sort of create an unofficial border that makes them think it isn’t ours. This left us without room to even spread out our checkered-flag rug. And if we planned to put out our awning, we’d never be able to use our own campfire.

We didn’t complain though because we only needed a place to park for one night until the better spot, closer to our in-laws opened up. Today, my husband is at work, and I am at the library, and my father-in-law gets the wonderful job of hooking up our trailer and moving it two spots down.

So, our family is camping. Sort of. The oldest child has band camp three days this week. She has to be there from 8 to 3 every day. The youngest daughter wanted to do volleyball, which is why she and I are here today. But she just called, and she has not yet had a physical (I should have known), so she can’t do anything. I am definitely still in summer mode.

Tomorrow, classes start at Ferris, so I will be driving down to teach, and I will be gone pretty much all day. I will do it again Thursday, which is the day when all of the children should be able to stay at the campground.

And this weekend? A holiday weekend when all of us should be able to rest and relax? Three of the children are working both Saturday and Sunday, and one is working Friday too. And by Monday, we’ll pack it all up and head back home.

Despite the time struggles, we will find a way to enjoy ourselves. There will definitely be s’mores and time spent around the campfire and that will be enough. Next year, we need to remember that even though school doesn’t start until after Labor Day, the school may have other plans for our children.

Lilly Caught One and Didn’t Know What to Do

Lilly weighs about 8 pounds, but she is fiercely protective, and to do her protective bit just right, Lilly wants to chase cars.

She is hindered, however, by our electric fence. She still does what she can, which is start at one corner of our yard and runs the length to the other end, barking furiously whenever a vehicle happens to pass. She is even worse when she is in a vehicle as she jumps around yapping at any vehicle stupid enough to be on the road when we are. Don’t they know Lilly’s wrath?

Yesterday, Lilly got her break. She was out of the yard on a leash when a truck starting rumbling down our road. She got loose and took off towards the truck in all of her fury with her leash trailing behind her.

The truck missed her, but she was still thrown about because of the wind and possibly the truck didn’t miss the leash. She jumped up furious at her failed attempt. At first Lilly was her usually furious self, snapping and biting out. Within moments though, Lilly realized she was hurt. She was limping.

At home, she hobbled into the house on three legs, and when the kids reported Lilly was hit by a vehicle, we thought they were joking. Until we saw Lilly, who was trailing behind with her left rear leg being held at a weird angle.

I called the vet, which was closed, and talked to the vet on call. Lilly wasn’t bleeding, and there weren’t any visible breaks or bones. She was quiet and not walking on her leg, but mostly she was OK, which is way more than I would have expected when hearing a mini-pin tangled with a truck.

The vet gave us some advice and recommended we go in today. So that is what we are doing.

This morning, Lilly is still hobbling on three legs. She sometimes just stands up and won’t move. For the most part, she doesn’t seem to be in pain. She’ll let us pet her hind leg and pick her up. Her vet appointment is soon, and I hope we hear good news. And now that she has caught a vehicle, I hope she is satisfied enough not to have that quest again.

Update: Lilly is back home from the vet. She has a broken pelvis, which means she will have to spend the next three weeks in her crate. Then she goes back for another x-ray, and we’ll slowly start letting her move more if everything is good. This is the BEST news. We knew something was wrong, and I am relieved it wasn’t a femur, which would have meant surgery and pins and plates and lots of $$$.

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Boyfriends

My oldest child made the badly-timed comment that I have not written in my blog about her new boyfriend yet. Was that a request? As any good mother would do, I shall fulfill it!

I have three daughters, and my daughters are good looking girls, which means there are boys. Currently, all three girls are “in a relationship.”

And though I have never had favorites among my children, I feel no compulsion to not develop favorites among the boyfriends. Therefore, I must confess that I like the youngest daughter’s boyfriend best. This boy thinks I don’t like him, and I admit I was not admired of him when I first met him, which was when we were camping in July. Primarily because he was hanging around outside my daughter’s tent after all of us went to bed, but her older sister ran him off with a few choice warnings of what I might do if I caught him.

Why do I like this boy the best? He lives in another state, and even better, the state he lives in has many states between that state and the state we live in. I think this is the very best kind of boyfriend for my children to have. I highly endorse it. Long may it last from afar.

And the other two boys? They are on shaky ground. Both called last night after 9 p.m., which I have long established as something that IS. NOT. DONE. One boy’s call was slightly worse since he made the mistake of calling the house phone after 9 p.m. The other boy called after 9 as well, but he made it a restricted call to the daughter’s cell phone, and it was almost midnight.

The daughter was sitting right next to me, and we were using my laptop to watch an episode of Pretty Little Liars that we had missed. After a little bit, she gave me the phone and told me to talk to whoever was calling her. I knew it was the boyfriend right away despite the really bad accent that he said he got from “accent school,” and which I suggested he request a refund of his tuition.

While this boyfriend talked in a fake accent, I heard other boys in the background, and there was pausing for the boy to laugh with the guys. He did not know he was talking to the daughter’s mother, and I didn’t enlighten him. After about 15 minutes or so, he asked if I was Maxine, and I said no. He asked if I was Amanda, and I said no. He asked if I was Autumn, and I said no, and then I said something along the lines of that leaves just one female in this house that he could be talking to, and he got it, and he was so shocked I think he dropped the phone. One of the boys with him quickly picked it up and in very mangled fake accent said something that I think wasn’t quite appropriate to say to a mother. When said boyfriend recovered, he must have grabbed the phone because the phone call suddenly ended, and my daughter got a text asking if I was mad. I wasn’t. It was funny.

(Digression: When this boy and my daughter started dating, he was texting her and asking if her parents knew they were dating. She wrote back “yes,” and he texted, “What do they think?” By then, I had control of the daughter’s phone, and texted back, “She could do better.” Priceless. Daughter let him know right away who sent that text. And now a digression in a digression: Yes, I take my children’s cell phones at random moments and read their texts. My children know this is a possibility. It is part of the agreement we have that allows them to have the phones in the first place. If I check their phone and texts have been deleted OR my child refuses to surrender the phone, the child loses the right to have a phone.End Digression in a Digression. End Digression.)

Although that boyfriend loses points because he claims to love my daughter with every text he sends (it is his auto signature), although love might be spelled “luv.” It is way too soon for any of that nonsense! I think he is very enamored of her, and he may have put her up on a very high pedestal, which does not impress her very much (it is hard to type that line without thinking of Shania Twain). If I were to give him advice, I would say he needs to tone it down. The child that is his girlfriend is not the type of girl that is flattered by constant attention and compliments. She gets annoyed.

And then there is that other guy. He is the oldest child’s boyfriend. He drives. He has crazy (think Fatal Attraction level crazy) ex-girlfriends. He has drama. All of which my oldest child just feeds off of (she is not her sister). But so far he has been nice and treated her well. He is polite (although he does not check the time before calling our house at night). At this stage, it may even be that he is proof that the oldest child’s taste in boys has improved slightly, but I reserve the right to change my mind because the guy either is attracted to Fatal Attraction level crazy or he creates it. And the oldest child has proven that she 1) likes the bad boy and 2) likes any boy that drives her mother nuts.

So to summarize, I like my youngest daughter’s boyfriend. I approve of him right until the moment that he crosses the border of Michigan. The other two boys? They amuse me, which is better than annoying me. Right up until the moment they call after 9 p.m. or otherwise conspire to make my children lie or tell me half-truths.

And now the oldest child can be sorry that she got what she asked for….

Time Capsule

Last week, my oldest daughter was home mostly by herself. Her dad was on call, and I was free from obligations, so I gathered up the rest of the children, and we went camping to be with my husband. The oldest daughter had to work, so she stayed home.

Eventually, her siblings had responsibilities too, so they joined her. I stayed. And while the parents were away from the home, things sort of fell apart. First, the satellite quit working. But that was OK because there was Internet and Netflix. But on Saturday, I got a call from my youngest son. His two oldest sisters were both at work, his youngest sister was at a friend’s, and the internet was down. He was bored.

Never have you heard a more pitiful sound than a 11-year-old boy claiming to be bored. OK, you probably have, but that particular 11-year-old boy doesn’t think it is true.

Never mind that this child owns a bicycle and dogs and two gaming systems. Never mind that he was in a house with all kinds of games including Sims on the computer and a huge collection of DVD movies. He was bored. Plus, he loves to read, and this is also a house FULL of books that he could be reading. He, however, refused to budge. He was bored.

I was not concerned.

By Sunday, his sisters were home, and he was still bored. The oldest sister pulled out an entire pile of books that she recommended he read, but he wanted none of that. When the oldest went to work, the middle daughter who actively avoids books, and the youngest child were both bored.

So they went digging. And they came across ancient VCR tapes including a whole slew of family videos. And they watched.

When I arrived home Monday, it wasn’t as clear to me that the children had been bored. For one thing, I would think extremely bored children would have done a bit more cleaning. Alas, it didn’t happen.

Although, the oldest child, who was the one who worked most of the weekend, was up at 8 a.m. and cleaning. Don’t be too impressed: she had an agenda, but still she was also making GREAT progress. (Agenda in this case translates to “she wanted her boyfriend to come over.”)

I pulled into the driveway and roused the children. At 8 a.m., the middle child started the lawn mower and mowed the area of lawn where we normally park our camper. This allowed me to pull all the way into the driveway since I had pulled the camper home (I am becoming a real pro at that!).

The next two and a half hours were spent with me on the phone trying to get our internet restored. It was a huge “my department doesn’t handle that” fiasco that did NOT make me happy, especially when that one tech person said my internet should be restored in 24-hours. Um, no. I want it restored NOW.

Because it doesn’t bother me when the children are without internet, but I need my internet. Especially since I had grades that needed to be posted, and I couldn’t wait 24-hours. It only took talking to two more people to get my internet restored, although I’m not sure what the problem was with it to begin with.

But while in my office, I noticed things had been disturbed. The books were all over the floor from the oldest child’s suggestions. And all of my office supplies were out, and someone had messed with the old VCR tapes stored behind my office supplies.

Later, the middle child was laughing about her behavior when she was a child. “I was a brat,” she said. The oldest chimed in quickly, “I was a brat too, but I was cute!”

And that is when I learned how the children entertained themselves Sunday: they watched old family movies. Some of the movies were from when I only had three children.

Before the afternoon was up, I had popped in a video tape to watch. Who are these adorable little kids? Oh, their voices! I remember thinking back then that I needed to capture their tiny voices. And I had. Adorable.

There was Autumn and Amanda playing together without any fighting. Although several times, Amanda would run away to find me and then run right back.

There was me before my broken ankle, and a brief (but still too long) view of me after I broke the ankle but before my surgery (in other words, on the couch doped up on pain meds). And Autumn’s fourth birthday, Maxine’s first birthday.

And Grandma Sherwood in a perm. I had forgotten Grandma Ruth was at Maxine’s first birthday party. Or that Deb Denton was at Autumn’s fourth birthday party. And I heard his voice before I saw him — my dad. And Gramps was there, and we caught on film one of his bits of wisdom. Precious.

It was bittter-sweet to watch.

And then it was time to shut off the video and have my oldest child take my second-oldest child to her first day of driver’s training.

Where does the time go?

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