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Playground Ponderings

I remember elementary school and exactly how mean little kids can be just by using their words. But I had no idea what I’d have to try to deal with on Wednesday night as I was tucking my little guy into bed.

All four of my children go to the same elementary school. It’s K-5, and there’s about 100 students and four classes. Most of the classrooms have a mix of grades. There’s K-1, 1-2, 3-4 and 4-5. I have a child in every single one of these classrooms. I’ve had a child in this school for the last six years. I know everyone there and they know me.

So I was a bit shocked on Wednesday when my son told me about something happened at school and I had no idea. I was blindsided.

Earlier in the day, as we were all unwinding from our day, the girls told me about an incident at recess. Apparently Justin had been chasing a little girl (also a kindergarten student) and although she asked him to stop chasing her, he didn’t. The girl started to cry.

My girls’ were upset about this. They told the story repeatedly. Talking to me, each other and Justin about it. Two of my girls even made cards for the little girl apologizing for their brother the insensitive brute.

I didn’t think much of it. Justin didn’t have much to say about it. His sisters said plenty though. It wasn’t a big deal. But it was the talk of the evening at my house by his sisters.

So I wasn’t surprised when at 8 p.m. as I tucked Justin into bed, he told me he hadn’t had a good day today. But still I asked him what had happened that bothered him.

That’s when he told me a fellow kindergarten student had told Justin he was going to bring a knife to school the next day and, at this point, Justin made a slashing motion across his neck. The threat was against Justin.

A kindergarten student threatened my son’s life! Violently.

Justin was upset as he told me about it. He said his teacher heard the threat and had reassured Justin that the student wouldn’t be going to school on Thursday.

But I was never called. And this was the first I heard about it.

I talked to him a bit, but I felt blindsided. I was operating on instinct, and I would have appreciated a heads up so I could have thought about what to say, etc.

I asked Justin what had caused the remarks, but Justin just shrugged his shoulders. I made a comment about how I thought he was friends with this little boy, and Justin said, "We were, but not anymore."

The next day, I called the school and spoke to the principal. She was quick to reassure me that the student who made the threat was disciplined. But that wasn’t really my concern.

Maybe I’m being too naive, but I really don’t see this kid being able to smuggle a knife to school and carry out his threat. Yeah, he might not come from the best home, but he’s also in kindergarten.

But I was very upset that the school never called to tell me about it. I spoke to the principal a bit more, and let her know the student’s punishment wasn’t really my concern. I just wish I’d have been prepared for the late-night stunner my son told me.

The principal did ask me if Justin was reluctant to come to school yesterday, but he wasn’t . He knew the student wouldn’t be there and there was a Pajama day party. But this morning? Justin didn’t get dressed right away and he tried to get out of going to school saying his belly hurt. That’s unlike Justin.

I did get a phone call from the teacher apologizing for not calling me about the incident.

I’m still stunned. I’m still trying to figure out how to talk to my son about this without making it out to be too big of a deal. I want him to be comfortable going to school. And more than 24-hours later, I still feel blindsided, wishing I’d been able to handle my son’s revalations a bit better.

And I did find out about what caused the threat. Apparently Justin was standing on something that belonged to the student as they were getting their winter stuff on. I’ve seen the kids get ready to go outside. Stuff is everywhere. It’s probably impossible to not step on something. Justin said he didn’t mean to step on anything, and he said his teacher told him he didn’t do anything wrong.

I don’t know where I’m going with this. How do you explain something to a 6-year-old when you don’t understand it yourself?

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Grrr…

I must say that I absolutely detest the American medical billing system. You go to a doctor and about a month later when you forgot all about the doctor appointment you start getting mail about the appointment from companies you’ve never heard of.

Yesterday I got a bill from a company that analyzes the tests claiming I owe them over $100 for a bill that was generated nearly a year ago. But my insurance company (thankfully) now has access online. So I was able to see that this particular company was paid for this particular service last November.

I provided the insurance claim number, the check number, the check amount, the discounted amounts. Everything. They promise to investigate. Let’s hope they get it right.

I’m receiving another medical bill in my name that actually belongs to my husband. There is a problem with this bill, but I can’t do anything about it because it is my husband’s medical records, so therefore it is private. It’s very frustrating. It is nearly impossible to solve a problem when you can’t talk to anyone.

The other day hubby got a letter from his credit card company saying they needed to have a street address on his account because of new laws put forth after 9-11. We changed our mailing address to a PO box just over a year ago, but our street address hasn’t changed since the early 90s. So getting the letter in the mail, I called his credit card company to let them know.

They wouldn’t talk to me. I’m not on the account. DH doesn’t have the type of job that allows him to make phone calls during business hours. So I do this stuff. Or try to. Finally I told the woman that I didn’t have to give her any information at all. That she already had it all right there, if she could just note that the street address is the same as it was. I think she did it. But who knows?

Speaking of changing our address to a PO box…

One of our major reasons for making this change was because every winter for the last several years our mailbox has been destroyed by a county plow truck. Mail has been thrown into deep snowbanks, some of which wasn’t discovered until the spring thaw. I’ve ranted about it here before.

So when we switched to the PO box, we decided to leave the mailbox up to see how long before the county plow truck took it down for us.

Last year, there was a month in which I went through two replacement mailboxes, and both of those mailboxes were damaged in between. Repeatedly. Like day after day.

This year? Our mailbox hasn’t been touched. No door ripped off. No dents. No tilted box. No box ripped off the post and thrown four feet into the snow bank. Nothing. Nada. Damage-free it remains.

Steve says it’s because we haven’t had a lot of snow this season. Probably. But it looks like I might have to take the mailbox down after all. But not until it warms up quite a bit. ;)

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Huh?

This "trend" story came into my inbox courtesy of the Casey Journalism Center. I’m shocked and disappointed.

Parents mellowing out on drug use

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Did I really say that?

"Don’t hit your sister. Especially don’t hit your sister with your Bible."

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Sick

For the past few weeks I would arrive home to be followed shortly by my children minus 1. One after another it seems they all went home from school early because they were sick. So instead of having all four children greet me as they got off the bus, I’d have three children saying "so and so is at Grandma’s."  Hubby even got sick briefly. But I remained fine.

Notice the past tense.

I’m sick. How can your nose be congested and runny at the same time? My throat hurts. My body aches. I’m coughing so much my ribs are now aching.

And then we got lots and lots of snow yesterday. Today is "in service" day at school. And I have to get to work regardless of how ill I am.

In the good news department, going out into the cold world will give me an opportunity to buy some powerful over-the-counter drugs. Yesterday I had to resort to taking children’s something or other. Why am I the only person with 6 bottles of various OTD in my medicine arsenol, but none of them match MY symptoms unless I want to sleep. Which I don’t.

So the children are going to Grandma’s. I’m going to work. (I have to go or else I’d just stay miserable without drugs until hubby came home tonight.)

Speaking of work, I have a new computer. An eMac with OS10.

This means (drumroll) I can do TWO! TWO! things at once. Or even more than TWO!

On my old computer (which was an iMac) if I was working on aQuark document and went to save it to the server, I could be waiting for minutes (sometimes as many as 20) for the document to save. And while it saved, my computer was frozen. Frozen solid. I couldn’t even write.

Which made everything take sooooo long to do.

I’m a multi-task type of person and I so hated not being able to do anything while my computer was saving. And you know the old saw about computers. Save often, right? Yeah.

So now I have a purty computer that will let me do (my editor assures me) up to 10 things at once (within reason). Yippee.

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